The new rules for love
So for the price, I thought I would see what the good pastor has to say. The book starts out The Kindle version was cheap, .99 so I bought it out of a curiosity for what the loyal opposition is doing. He goes a little overboard in my estimation on premarital sex..sin and purity stuff that doesn't set well me.
While I am a rather poor excuse for a Christian (I like Christmas Trees) with a one way ticket to hell for some matters involving lusting over a bare thigh (in church no less) for which I refuse to ask forgiveness, I am a rather dyed in the wool monogamist. Later chapters he drags out the sin and purity and starts thumping the Bible, but if you can get around the rhetoric, for the most part the suggestions in this book are good and would apply to non-religious folks as well as the religious. His main tenet is that instead of looking for the right partner become the right partner. That said however I will admit that I think he is right, jumping into sex prematurely blinds one to the relationship flaws.
In the back of the book is a small-group video discussion guide.
We asked leaders to read the book, especially focusing on chapters 1, 6, 9, and 10 (the chapters the videos address).
The New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating: Unveils what God says that will lead to success in dating and marriage, Transforms guys way of thinking about women, Reveals common myths about sex outside of marriage, Prepares men and women to one day say 'I do' and mean it, And much more.
'If you don't want a marriage like the majority of marriages, then stop dating like the majority of daters!
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
While I am a rather poor excuse for a Christian (I like Christmas Trees) with a one way ticket to hell for some matters involving lusting over a bare thigh (in church no less) for which I refuse to ask forgiveness, I am a rather dyed in the wool monogamist.
But over time, all of that is eventually squashed by our unbridled, selfish, self-preserving natures.
Granted, we know how to turn them all on when we’re winning and wooing. What come naturally are passion, lust, chemistry, and that “can’t wait to get you alone” feeling.
Whether in a group or by yourself, this study will help you set a course toward “being the right person.” ~ Fred Bittner, Faith Gateway Bible Study * * * “At the center of every great love story are two people who are for each other, destined to be together. Three hundred pages or a hundred and twenty minutes later they’ve figured out what we knew all along, leaving us entertained and, in some cases, inspired by their story. I realize that you realize movies, reality TV, and novels don’t reflect real life.
We’re usually able to spot ’em three or four scenes into a movie or a half-dozen chapters into a novel. I assume you don’t take your relationship cues from script writers and authors.
When I entered youth ministry, I must’ve signed a contract agreeing to teach about sex and relationships every February forever…it’s law! But with all the Valentine’s Day love buzz, it’s a natural time to focus on relationships. I’d heard lots of buzz about Andy Stanley’s So I downloaded the Kindle version and quickly read it. I appreciate the solid content, and so did our small groups as they watched intently and leaned in to listen.